Back to work and other horror stories

Back to work

I was right now looking at my little munchkin and thinking “I can’t believe it’s been three months already“. And yes, time flies and it flies extremely fast.

While it is awesome to see the little one growing and developing his new skills over time, it is scary and overwhelming seeing how quick everything is going and how close I am getting to the end of my maternity leave. And to be honest, just the thought of putting little Oliver into daycare and leaving him behind so that I can come back to work makes me feel nauseous…

Time is flyingLet me give you a little bit of background here… I live in Calgary (Canada) and one of the advantages of living here is that I get 17 weeks of maternity leave and another extra 37 weeks of parental leave that I can share with my husband if we decide to. So basically I have almost a full year off work to take care of our little bundle of joy! However, I am originally from Spain so I’ve been raised in a culture in which moms have to come back to work very soon once the baby is born. In Spain the maximum period of time that you get nowadays for your maternity leave is 16 weeks (approximately 4 months) and then some extra time for breastfeeding (which is not much). Taking this in consideration, when I was preparing my maternity leave paperwork back in May I initially thought that being off work for seven months should be more than enough so I only planned to be away until the end of the year and return right at the beginning of 2017. On top of that, you also have to consider that, although I live in Canada, I work for a USA business unit and in the US they only provide pregnant women with SIX WEEKS of maternity leave (!!!) so how was I going to take a full year myself??? That would kill my professional career! … How little I knew about taking care of a newborn back then… and so my son was born, and my world was upside-down…

Why, why notNow I’m wondering what should I do and I am fighting an internal battle between staying home just until the end of the year or taking 5 more months and get the full year off… This might be a no-brainer for most of the mums that might be reading this but I have a very good reason to come back to work: My husband was laid-off a month ago and we are living of the Employment Insurance…

Financial pressure, company pressure… What should I do???

In addition, up until today I’ve been getting text messages from my coworkers in the States asking me “when are you coming back?”, “you are not taking the full year, are you?”, “we need you back at the trenches”, and things like that. So, how am I going to tell them that I’m considering changing my date of return and taking the full year instead of just 7 months?  I know that I’m putting my professional career in jeopardy but now more than ever I realize how important my family is for me so I hope that my company and my coworkers support me on this decision, whatever it ends up being…

How was your return to work after your maternity leave? Share it with us in the comments section!

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  1. It’s a tough decision and you just have to make the best decision you can for your family. I’ve been working for a fairly shocking 40 years and I’ve raised my 3 sons through all this time. Somehow we managed to make it all work, but it wasn’t easy, but we’ve survived it and they are all successful adults now. It does help to have flexible work arrangements and have good family support, and fortunately I had healthy babies. But regardless of your decision, it will be alright. Kids are resiliant and they do well in a variety of circumstances.
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    • Thanks so much for your comment Adrian. I tip my hat for you! I wish I’m able to say the same in 30 years from now.
      This decision is indeed a tough one. My manager gave me a call recently to see how things were going with the baby and to ask me whether I was coming back soon or not. I told him that most likely I would extend my maternity leave until May so I guess I’ve made up my mind already!
      I will definitely come back to work but I want to take full advantage of the one year that we are provided in Canada.
      Thanks again and have a terrific weekend!

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